Expectations. No doubt you recognise that word, and no doubt are we victims of the expectations dumped upon us by society, our parents, and most importantly; ourselves. Every single person is being judged, and judgement is being passed on how we should act, the grades we should achieve and what we should look like. Should; a word which indicates obligation, especially when criticising somebody’s actions poses the question: who is criticising us, and why should we listen to them and not ourselves?
It’s as though everything we do must be pre-empted by our own stubborn expectations. We, as individuals, are setting ourselves these boundaries which are often harsh and difficult to thwart – the decisive factor of how life should be and what’s best for us. Do not get me started on how our expectations have taken control of the way we live.
Society is primarily at fault. I, as an unlucky member of this fraught society, have been consumed by the startling ideology that what I do is being judged. Every decision I make, every item of clothing I wear, every result from every exam I’ve done is being judged. What can I say, I do it too. We all do, we are all guilty of this. I often find myself questioning what right I have to expect anybody to conform to any of my expectations. None whatsoever. This is indoctrinating at its highest form. Society has indoctrinated us into believing we have the right to hold specific expectations for specific people as to what we expect them to accomplish.
A fine example is parents. It’s as though it is in their nature to expect you to achieve miracles. Yet it is in our nature to surrender to their unnecessary pressures. In this world we are on a mission to navigate our own identity and self-worth, during which we have to deal with our parent’s unreachable expectations. Understandably, they claim to want the best for us, but do they really? This just one of the saddening outcomes of how society has created us, unable to conquer our fears and exceed expectations because we cannot stray too far from the normal. Our youthful exuberance is stagnated by the impending doom of having to live up to these expectations.
We are our own worst enemy. In a social environment like school, how could you not be influenced by the people around you, it is inevitable. This generation is the worst. We are all so interconnected through social media and this heavily affects how we prefer our own image to be portrayed online and in person.
Enough is enough! I no longer want to live in the shadow of what has been envisioned for me by everyone but me. Live life as you wish and not under the demands of disappointing a presumption that has been made for you. But the message goes both ways. Stop judging people and expecting them to conduct themselves in a particular manner, or expecting them to hold the same beliefs as you, stop assuming that people are subject to your judgement and are constrained to your beliefs and way of life.
– an excerpt from my thoughts on expectations
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