We Were Liars: My Thoughts

As far as books go, I am a very picky person, but very rarely will I stop reading a book midway through because I don’t like it. With ‘We Were Liars’, it was very hard for me to read the whole way through without putting the book down, but I persevered :). I really enjoyed the beginning, and I mean really enjoyed it. Yet, there was something about the storyline that the further through the book I got, the more chaotic the storyline seemed to me.

The beginning was pretty gripping, and at 250- or so words, the book is a pretty short read. The introduction to the island and getting to know the 4 main characters is intriguing, but then after the climax (I won’t spoil it in case any of you would like to read it) the storyline became a little distorted and (in my opinion) wasn’t executed the way it probably should’ve been.

When I look back on it, the intention of the storyline is very skilful , and seems to be very well thought out. The only issue is that the author seems to have a problem with the proper completion of the ending which does spoil the book in a way. It’s almost as though the intention wasn’t transferred properly from brain to paper.

Overall, I probably wouldn’t read this book again; maybe because I’m looking for something that will not be as frustrating to finish, or maybe because this just wasn’t really the book for me. If you have read it, do let me know your thoughts.

lorinda xxx

 

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Expectations

Expectations. No doubt you recognise that word, and no doubt are we victims of the expectations dumped upon us by society, our parents, and most importantly; ourselves. Every single person is being judged, and judgement is being passed on how we should act, the grades we should achieve and what we should look like. Should; a word which indicates obligation, especially when criticising somebody’s actions poses the question: who is criticising us, and why should we listen to them and not ourselves?

It’s as though everything we do must be pre-empted by our own stubborn expectations. We, as individuals, are setting ourselves these boundaries which are often harsh and difficult to thwart – the decisive factor of how life should be and what’s best for us. Do not get me started on how our expectations have taken control of the way we live.

Society is primarily at fault.  I, as an unlucky member of this fraught society, have been consumed by the startling ideology that what I do is being judged. Every decision I make, every item of clothing I wear, every result from every exam I’ve done is being judged. What can I say,  I do it too. We all do, we are all guilty of this. I often find myself questioning what right I have to expect anybody to conform to any of my expectations. None whatsoever. This is indoctrinating at its highest form. Society has indoctrinated us into believing we have the right to hold specific expectations for specific people as to what we expect them to accomplish.

A fine example is parents. It’s as though it is in their nature to expect you to achieve miracles. Yet it is in our nature to surrender to their unnecessary pressures. In this world we are on a mission to navigate our own identity and self-worth, during which we have to deal with our parent’s unreachable expectations. Understandably, they claim to want the best for us, but do they really? This just one of the saddening outcomes of how society has created us, unable to conquer our fears and exceed expectations because we cannot stray too far from the normal. Our youthful exuberance is stagnated by the impending doom of having to live up to these expectations.

We are our own worst enemy. In a social environment like school, how could you not be influenced by the people around you, it is inevitable. This generation is the worst. We are all so interconnected through social media and this heavily affects how we prefer our own image to be portrayed online and in person.

Enough is enough! I no longer want to live in the shadow of what has been envisioned for me by everyone but me. Live life as you wish and not under the demands of disappointing a presumption that has been made for you. But the message goes both ways. Stop judging people and expecting them to conduct themselves in a particular manner, or expecting them to hold the same beliefs as you, stop assuming that people are subject to your judgement and are constrained to your beliefs and way of life.

an excerpt from my thoughts on expectations

thanks for checking in 🙂

Lorinda xxx

Saatchi Sundaze

If you are interested in art, the Saatchi Gallery in Chelsea, London is somewhere I’d definitely recommend going. I visited it last Sunday and witnessed some of the most vibrant impressionist paintings, I was in awe of the colours and different styles of art I encountered.

The exhibition was called ‘Known Unknowns’ and features the work of `17 contemporary artists and focuses mainly on the diversity and breadth of contemporary art in a progressively digital age. The art here is different, unlike anything that would be considered ‘normal’, but art isn’t normal, there will always be different interpretations of different artwork and that’s what makes it so special.

Check out some of the pieces I snapped and let me know if you decide to visit! Also check out many of my other posts by clicking the menu above 🙂

Lorinda xxx

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Book Club: Currently Reading

Hi all,

So I’ve decided to start some form of ‘book club’ whereby I share what book I am currently reading and you guys comment books that you love or books that you are currently reading and are really enjoying. That way, we can all benefit from each other’s book recommendations, find me on GoodReads at ‘Lorinda’ (I have only just set it up so it may not be of any use:)

keep me updated on books you love!

Lorinda xxx

p.s. I am currently reading ‘We Were Liars’ by E. Lockhart.

My ‘Soul’ Playlist

My music taste is very varied, sometimes questionable, yet I created a playlist a while ago which is extremely calm and more so for me to just chill out and not stress haha. Music is for the soul and a way to engage the whole brain, improving memory, attention, physical co ordination and mental development, I’m hoping this music has the potential to improve your mood and decrease your frustration : )

I thought many of you might be on the hunt for some new music so take a look at some of my favourite picks, also comment some of your favourite songs & share this post/blog with people you think might enjoy reading this.

Egyptian Luvr – Rejjie Snow (feat. Amine & Dana Williams)

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Aura – SJ Lewis, J Warner

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GoodLovinn – J.Robb, Devin Tracy

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Talk About Forever – Mabel

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Take Time – Roy Woods (feat. 24Hrs)

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Good Love – 11:11

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Blue Lights – Jorja Smith

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Language – Paperboy Fabe, Brent Faiyaz

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ALSO; visit this post from ‘Owlcation’ which outlines the positive benefits of listening to music.

lots of love

Lorinda xxx

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IMG_E4880‘Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.’

8th March 2018. Today is International Women’s Day and a time to #pressforprogress. With different movements fighting for women’s equality such as #MeToo and #TimesUp, it is becoming increasingly important that we strive for gender parity.

Let me tell you more about these two movements that many of you may have seen across social media platforms but never quite understood exactly what they mean.

#TimesUp – www.timesupnow.com

A unified call of change from women in entertainment for women everywhere, envisioning nationwide leadership that reflects the world w live in. Powered by women, it addresses the systematic inequality and injustice in the workplace that have prevented certain groups from reaching their full potential. It partners with leading advocates for equality and safety to improve laws, employment agreements and corporate policies – enabling more women and men to access the legal system to hold wrongdoers accountable.

#MeToo – metoomvmt.org

A  movement founded by Tarana Burke 10 years ago to help survivors of sexual violence, particularly young women of colour from low wealth communities, find pathways to healing. The  me too. movement uses the idea of ’empowerment through empathy’ and was created to ensure survivors know that they are not alone.

BUT

Women need to be celebrated! What powerful, extraordinary people who are intelligent, loving, caring and have the potential to change the world (currently in the process of doing so). We mustn’t let society alter how we view ourselves or how we choose to act, make life choices that you want to make and fight the patriarchy. Be inspirational by being you, no doubt you have inspired somebody in your lifetime… heck, maybe in the past week. Read the books you want to read, listen to music you want to listen to, be who you want to be. Never let the bitterness of this world steal your sweetness…

This isn’t even for the women in the world, because fighting for equality isn’t for women to have more power, it’s for the patriarchy to be quashed and for the world to be a better place… this is just the first step!

Don’t compete, empower! 

‘Girls support girls’

Lorinda xxx

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London Lovin

I haven’t been to London in a long while, so what better way to spend the day than in a cute little restaurant (which also made me entirely wary of the way I conducted myself hehe) with waffles and tea!

The Ivy City Garden is an adorable, albeit stunning, venue and for anyone who needs a fitting place to treat their loved ones or catch up with a longtime pal, this was one of the best ways to do so.

The art here was just phenomenal! Although, art itself is such an abstract form of visual representation for anything and it does leave a classy, timeless effect on anyone who witnesses it.

The staff were absolutely lovely and hospitable and I look forward to venturing to all the other Ivy restaurants (may have to create an archive of all my special visits), do enjoy the photos below x

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See you soon 🙂

 

 

View from The Shard

At Christmas I visited the Shard (late, late I know!) but it was absolutely mesmerizing. For any tourists who would like to visit London, it is one of the first places I would recommend visiting (I will leave a link below to the official website for anyone who would like to pre-book tickets). I visited at night  and the view was stunning although I have also visited during the day where the view is equally as impressive.

You can see everything within  a very, very large range. On one side is the River Thames and the famous Tower Bridge and as you turn, the charming suburban streets stand quietly next to the bustling city. London’s landmarks are stunning and I would recommend visiting them at some point…

https://www.theviewfromtheshard.com/en/tickets-prices/

Lorinda xxx

 

Icelandic Adventure!

So recently I went on one of the best holidays I think I will ever experience, Iceland. I made so many memories with so many people and saw things I would never have seen elsewhere. The iconic Blue Lagoon is stunning, and one of the ‘World’s Wonders’, and Iceland is home to many different waterfalls! My favourite bit was probably the tomato greenhouse, which funnily enough also starred on a season 12 episode of Keeping Up With The Kardashians. Iceland is truly amazing, and look through these photos – you will not be able to resist booking a flight for yourself…create your own Icelandic adventure!

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